Monday, August 22, 2011

Hukum puasa bagi ibu mengandung

 
This is a very interesting topic for me to write as I am now 34 weeks pregnant and fasting. I found this while browsing and was unsure about the part where mothers who breastfeed or pregnant continously can just 'bayar fidyah'. Then i found answers from Yusof Qardhawi here which in line with what the first blog said.
I am somewhat feel uneasy the way the first blogger wrote about the hukum....although 'Islam itu mudah' tapi jangan sampai 'kita ambil mudah'... so the way we write must not make the reader thinks 'Oh! kalau camtu senang la....kalau pregnant/breasfeed tak payah puasa'... I'm writing this to remind myself how can i remember about the hukum. (Thanks to this site too)

KEYWORD
Hukum puasa
Sihat
Kesihatan
Keuzuran

EXPLANATION
Hukum puasa? Wajib ke atas setiap orang Islam yang baligh, berakal & tidak uzur @ mampu.

Jika tidak berpuasa di bulan Ramadan tahun ini? Wajib ganti mengikut bilangan hari yang tidak berpuasa pada mana-mana bulan. Sekiranya tak sempat ganti hingga tiba Ramadan berikutnya, masih perlu mengantikan puasa mengikut bilangan hari yang tidak berpuasa itu PLUS bayar fidyah. Jika tahun berikutnya masih ada hutang berpuasa yang belum dilangsaikan, puasa masih tetap perlu diganti dan FIDYAH perlu digandakan. So if 2008 tak puasa 15 hari and tak sempat ganti in 2009, kena puasa 15 hari dan bayar fidyah untuk 15 hari. 2010 pulak, pun tak abis ganti (tinggal 5 hari lah katakan), seterusnya kena puasa ganti 5 hari and bayar fidyah berganda 5 hari x 2 nilai (2009 & 2010).
Hukum puasa ke atas ibu yang mengandung? Jika dia rasa tak dapat nak berpuasa, apakah sebabnya?
Sebenarnya faktor yang menentukan sama ada kita boleh berpuasa atau tidak ialah tahap KESIHATAN dan BUKAN SEBAB SITUASI KITA MENGANDUNG. Jika ibu yang mengandung itu memang mempunyai masalah seperti hypertension atau mmg ada sakit buah pinggang, dia memang dibolehkan berbuka atas sebab sakit itu. Kalau dia tak mengandung pun, dia dibolehkan berbuka atas sebab kesihatan itu. So kalau tinggal puasa di bulan Ramadan, wajib dia mengqada dan melangsaikan hutang puasa sama seperti di atas.
 
Hukum puasa kalau bimbangkan kandungan/susu tak cukup? This part looks confusing but actually straight forward. Before we are worried, have we tried to fast first? If we have and the doctor says fasting is affecting the baby/milk supply, then we can break fast on that reason from the expert. But still, we still need to ganti puasa and bayar fidyah(sekiranya tak abis ganti pada tahun ke2) macam biasa.

However, based on Yusuf Qardhawi's opinion, kelonggaran diberikan kepada perempuan yang bersalin/menyusu badan setiap tahun berturut-turut. Maknanya tahun 1 tak dapat puasa sbb pregnant, pastu tahun 2 doktor nasihatkan tidak berpuasa kerana didapati susu badan berkurang kerana berpuasa. Then tahun ke 3, mengandung lagi. Thus wanita bertuah ini tidak perlu mengqadakan puasanya dan sekadar membayar fidyah kerana tentunya ia menjadi beban sedangkan mengandung/bersalin/menyusukan anak adalah satu ibadah yang dianugerahkan kepada wanita. Tapi mungkin situasi ini dah tak banyak zaman sekarang. Kalau zaman tok nenek kita mungkin sebab anak sampai 15. Lagipun, bukankah jika kita mengandung, kita dinasihatkan untuk tidak menyusukan lagi anak yang sebelum ini? So kalau anak tuh belum 2 tahun tapi kita dah mengandung, adakah kita masih breastfeed anak kita yang tua? Maknanya still ada break antara mengandung and breastfeed yang tua, so dah tak kira berturut... Wallah a'lam....

Orang yang tak perlu mengqada puasa hanyalah orang tua yang uzur dimana dia hanya perlu membayar fidyah sebab tidak memenuhi syarat wajib puasa yang ketiga. Even musafir, walaupun diharuskan berbuka tetapi masih perlu menqadakan puasanya.

Berpuasa itu banyak kelebihan and I am confident it would not bring any harm to my pregnancy. Not sure about milk supply as i've never got to breastfeed during Ramadan. I guess moms have to eat and drink a lot during sahur to ensure the milk supply is still there. If the supply is still low, then you may break fast but still need to qada the puasa.

Islam itu mudah tapi jangan ambil mudah :-)

Monday, August 15, 2011

15th day of fasting

Wanted to update earlier but laziness kicked in. Wanted to update on Curtain Search III..my Fella Design sale curtains are done and i received them about 2 weeks ago. Guess how much was the service charge? RM120!!! That is really cheap for 3 6 feet windows and 2 feet roman blind (I still haven't paid my auntie yet, have to wait for this month salary. And still can't be hang up yet, need to change current flimsy Ikea poles to a more sturdy ones since the fabric is rather heavy.

My Elyza's curtains also done and hung up end of last month. Just like what i expected. Although the blue stands out but the lily flowers pattern blends with the wall so the curtains is rather subtle and nice....
However, there was a bit of a problem for the roman blind. My eyes just thought the bottom part is tilted. The installer kept on adjusting as i kept seeing it unstraight. Finally i accepted 99% percent perfection because i pitied the installer.

I took pictures of the curtains but doesn't look really nice here. Just like how i felt when i chose the fabric. You have to see it appreciate as it doesn't look nice in photos.

Today is the 15th day of fasting. Still going strong. This time i really eat less than previous Ramadan. Maybe the baby accomodate most of my tummy space. I drool on drinks rather than food. I know what i want to drink but no feelings on food. Usually i want some appetizers and straight to main meal. This time....ahhh! don't care as long as the drinks are special. Well, actually the drinks are the usual: Sarsi, Cooled tea, Sirap... and today i had banana shake with oat for sahur....Heaven man....!

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Making people happy

My husband mentioned he wanted to watch the friendly match between Arsenal (his favourite club) and Malaysia. "Great!" i said to myself. Now i know what to get for his birthday this year. Football tickets! The match was on 13th July. I asked my friend whose husband used to work at FAM whether there's any ticket for sale. The ticket he sells costs RM108 each.

I called my husband whether he wanted one. "I just want to buy the RM68 ticket and I'm going with 2 of my friends". Hmmm....now i have to tell him that this is a birthday present (i wanted it to be a surprise actually) so he won't insist on buying the RM68 ticket. And i'm treating his friends as well......


The tickets that i bought actually costs RM258 so it's a numbered seat ticket. However, since my husband went to the stadium rather late (8pm and the match started 8.45pm) he didn't get to seat accordingly. Lucky enough he got to sit at Block 105.

I was pleased to see him excited about the event when i handed him the tickets the night before. He even took pictures of the tickets several times and wanted to put it on facebook. I personally think this is the best present i got for him so far because:
  1. He likes football/Arsenal
  2. He has never been to stadium to watch a football match even while he was in the UK
  3. He's going with friends



All in all, I'm happy to see him happy..... Happy birthday hubby! Love you always!

Friday, July 8, 2011

Curtain hunt 2

Wow! It's already July! I want to update on the curtain hunt. I found out that Fella Design sale at Bukit Subang has started on the 24th of June. I called my auntie to see whether she's interested to go (I knew she wanted to go to Shah Alam).
So we left at about 11am. We spent most of the time at PKNS Shah Alam, my aunt was looking for bride's baju kurung and i was looking for a raya jubah. Unfortunately, nothing fitted me! Sob!Sob!.... But i managed to buy Kasyif an oversized pink baju melayu (he's grown too fast now).
We got to Bukit Subang around 5pm. I was already tired (i forgot to mentioned i brought Kasyif along). My aim was to buy the discounted curtains so i spent RM554 on fabric which include a 6mtr x RM20 with floral motive for my mother. As for myself, i bought modern pattern 6mtr x RM18 for the girl's room and 18mtr x RM18 for master bedroom. I have this idea to interchange between living room and master bedroom curtains. So i bought extra metre to make into blinds (living room). As for the sewing, i seek my vet auntie's contact which i got to know lives in Johor Bahru. Mak aii! Jauhnya....(later that week i found out there's a tailor at Seksyen 4!).... Apparently she charges at reasonable price so i decided to follow suit my vet aunt. I didn't take pictures of the fabric (i wish i did). Fabrics already sent (but the measurement sent later)... Don't know when it will be ready...

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Lively weekend

My parents came last weekend to attend my cousin's wedding in Gombak on Saturday. My auntie also dropped by with his son Syafiq when she heard my mother was in town. It was quite nice to have people around. Kasyif was excited surrounded by his uncles.
Finally i confirmed wih Carrie Curtain the curtain for my house on Saturday. The basis of my choice this time is to choose something that blends thus i chose blue background to suit the sofa and white/cream lily to suit the walls. Usually we choose what we like, right...if so, i would choose the pink lily.
The sofa that i want the curtain to match with.

The one i chose

The one i like

This one is nice too!
 The more i look at the pics, the more i like no. 2 and no. 3! But i guess it does look different real life compared to in pictures. Why didn't i choose no.3 whereas it looks so attractive here? Whatever it is, i have confirmed the colour and they probably have cut the fabric by now. So fingers crossed....

On Sunday, my auntie, my mom and i went to Nilai 3. My auntie wanted to get stuff for her son's wedding and i actually had my own agenda. But putting people first, we shopped and surveyed for wedding stuff first. The time was not with us but we managed to go to 1 curtain shop (my agenda!) named Elite. The name actually shows what kind of shop it is. The cheapest fabric is around RM20 (but of course not that nice). It was nice to look at the fabrics when hanged rather than going through the fabric samples. Most fabrics were yummy! However, the drawback if i ordered from the shop is they won't hang for you (unless you buy curtains for the whole house). I did find fabric i like for the master bedroom and study room but costs around RM800. Hmmm....over the budget.... I want to wait for Fella Design sale but  where can i send the cloth to be sewn? Apparently curtain shop only sew cloth bought from them.
I will definitely go to Nilai 3 again but i don't know when now that i'm in the end of 2nd trimester.. Yikes!

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Getting new curtains

I think it's time for me to buy new curtains for the house. It has been the same 1 set since 2008. Since i have some extra money this year, i decided to buy new curtains for the house. The original budget was about RM500 for the whole house. That was rather unrealistic because a have 3 windows suitable for roman blinds and such the cost is higher than normal curtains. Initially i wanted to get modern patterns such as plains or stripes. And i don't know why when it came to the actual thing, i still favoured floral pattern ones. Why did i choose Elyza although the price is rather high (RM48 per metre of 54" width) from the last order in 2008 (RM30)? Yes, that was my choice and now i'm about to spend RM1,300 just on curtains! By right with RM1,300 I should be able to furnish the whole house. What the RM1,300 inclusive of:

  1. sliding door of 7' width. Total cost on curtains only RM690
  2. roman blinds of 20" x 80" drop. I can't remember how they calculate it
  3. roman blinds for the kitchen 25" x 48" drop (2 sets). I can't remember the calculation either

One thing about roman blind is the minimum width is 4' so doesn't mean cheaper if my window is smaller. Average per roman blind is about RM200-RM300. And think this time costs more because i don't have the roman blind frame and include installation. Next time it should be cheaper and i should try to sew the curtains myself.

So for the bedrooms, i plan to get ready made or get cheaper material. My estimate if i get a RM15 per metre material:
Sliding RM300 + window RM190 = RM490
Girl's bedroom = RM140
Study room = RM350 (assume roman blind)
TOTAL = RM980

Wow! Even if i opt to choose cheaper materials, the costs easily reach nearly RM1,000. I did survey IKEA ready made curtains which costs about RM169 per pair. The problem is the width is only 145 cm ( 4' plus) whereas i need 7' width for my window/sliding.

Whatever it is, i just don't want to make the wrong choice for RM1,300. Now I'm scared.....

Happy birthday to me!




Saturday 11 June was my birthday. I don't really mind if the day is just like any other day but it would be nice if my husband at least do something for me. Previously he sent me bouquet of flowers twice at the office. Of course i appreciated them because i like flowers. Last year he surprised me with a spa treatment which i didn't expect at all (and i truly enjoyed it). He did once gave me a small picture frame and there was a year he gave me a bathrobe. What i thought at that time was 'at least he remembers and it's the thought that counts'... sincerely, really... no matter how significant or not a gift from him is, i just appreciate that he actually remembers my birthday. That is all matters to me...
 
This year he treated me to a buffet lunch at the revolving restaurant, Seri Angkasa, Menara KL. It was my first time at Menara KL (even my kids have been there on a school excursion) so i was excited. I enjoyed the view and the food. He even braved himself to the pianist for a b'day song dedication (this is common at the restaurant) with a message 'i love you so much'...I know my husband and so for him to do that is not the ordinary him, you know. I guess i am easily charmed by romantic gestures and that's why fate made me married him. He's the opoosite so for him to do it once in while is something precious to me.
We brought Kasyif with us so it was a good outing for all of us. His gift this time? His current IPhone 3Gs as he's upgrading to IPhone 4. You see, i don't mind... As long as he thought of me on my birthday....
What's more special happened the night before.
I was holding my emotions back thinking my husband didn't care about me. He was busy, didn't even ask about my wellbeing (didn't he know that i'm pregnant!), we didn't go out for weekends, no cuddlings. I was frustrated...Is it because i am fat and not attractive? Has he lost interest in me? But i managed not to snap at him and controlled my emotion. Then just before we went to sleep, he wished me 'happy birthday' and told me that he loves me so much and he didn't know how to show that.
In split second, I was healed and hugged him hard. That was all i wanted to hear... Gone all my frustrations and anger... I just need reassurance, like John Gray mentioned in his book. I was possibly a 'wave' that was about to crash.....I was so really glad i didn't snap at him because it was not what i wanted to do to my loving husband.
So now i'm back....happy and contented!...